In my opinion, this is the sustaining center of the fog.

When white reactionaries gripe about Black History Month, they complain that there is no White History Month. Of course all 12 months (including February) are White History Month. (Ditto for Women's History Month vs. Men's History Year).

White people tend to think of "white" as neutral.

When I was in grade school English classes decades ago, we were taught that the correct pronoun for "Everybody should bring _____ own lunch" was "his." The pronoun "his" in this context (according to my teachers) was correct because the antecedent ("everybody") was singular, and since the only consistent choices were "his" or "her," the Gods of Grammar chose "his" to be what they called the "common" gender. Now why was the masculine pronoun chosen as the "common" gender? Obviously because the grammarians were pledged (though probably not consciously) to the patriarchy. "His" was not a neutral choice, but because "his" was consistent with the patriarchal bias of the grammarians, then it seemed "neutral." They didn't even bother to flip a coin.

This bogus neutrality tends to blinder white people into ignoring blatant inequalities, like the white vs. black wealth gap.

So back to your original question: I think white people talk about race fairly often (whether they're racists or anti-racists). The problem is that when they do, they almost always talk about black (or Hispanic or other non-white) people. When white (ostensibly) non-racist people do talk about white people in discussions of race, they tend to talk primarily in terms of white racists, which ignores the systemic nature of racism in America (and probably elsewhere).