I think your analysis of the psychology of patriarchal males is on-target.
But I believe that the reasons some women support patriarchal males are more complex. I don’t think anyone wants to be dominated (except for a relatively small group of individuals in the Psychopathia Sexualis sense — incidentally, a number of powerful men seek gratification in masochism and infantilism).
Goodness knows, if a woman wanted to be dominated and stripped of her dignity and power, what better partner could she find than an incel? But these guys seem to have trouble getting a date, let alone a mate for life. Women are, I think, not attracted to powerful men because they hope to glean a few crumbs from the male-dominated table (as opposed to no crumbs from the incels), but because they don’t want to lose what they perceive are the valuable things they already have. It’s not that women see patriarchal pappies as particularly nurturing, but they have been convinced that the enemies of patriarchy will undermine their well-being.
Most people (of whatever gender) tend to desire security and fear change. In a patriarchal society (which, as you point out quite convincingly, is still the dominant mode today), a dominant male (e.g. Trump — or Bill Clinton, lest anyone think I am making a partisan jibe here) promises a kind of normalcy — either a return to the good old days, or a preserving of the status quo of today. You or I may perceive that the status quo of today (in our patriarchal society) is egregious for women, but the female Trumpers view the reforms of a Sanders or a Warren (or even a Hillary Clinton) as threats to their security, and if they believe they have to choose between security on the one hand and freedom / self-fulfillment on the other, they tend to sacrifice freedom in order to attain what they perceive as stability.
Feminists (in my experience and reading) don’t want to be like men (and they certainly don’t espouse patriarchal values like domination and violence) — there was a brief time when success for women in the business world meant aping the behavior of Men in Power, but I believe most women have seen the harm that such a capitulation entails.
Contrary to Tears for Fears, most women don’t personally want to rule the world; they want what’s best for their family and their society, not some sort of elevator to the Patriarchal Penthouse. But patriarchy-loyal women think keeping Men in Power is the best way to do that, while feminists believe that overthrowing a hierarchy that promotes one gender over another is the only to bring up a healthy family and develop a healthy society.
